I saw Tonya, once a week, for 3 1/2 years. In this time she helped me in several different ways. First of all, Tonya helped give me a new perspective on life and myself. At the time I didn't not know myself very well. Tonya led me to myself, and started me on the path of understanding how to master myself. Before Tonya, outside influences ruled my life. These outside influences had complete control over me and my emotions. Outside influences caused me to feel something and I would act on those feelings. One of the greatest lessons she taught me is that feelings are NOT facts. At the time I was a binge drinker. I was getting drunk once or twice per weekend and usually at least once throughout the work week. I knew this was not a healthy practice and Tonya helped me to be honest with myself about this habit. I was an alcoholic, I just didn't want to believe it and definitely I did not want to quit drinking. Tonya never once came out and told me that I was an alcoholic, she just helped open my eyes to it. Tonya is a true professional and a master at her craft. Tonya helped to guide me through some extremely dark times. She was there every step of the way. I want to be very clear, Tonya did not do any of these things for me. She gave me the tools,education, and resources to tackle these things myself. Therapy is definitely a two way street. Tonya gave me the means to get better, but it was up to me to put these resources into practice, to help myself. During this time I had a successful career in the construction industry, but it came at a price. I was a people pleaser, and an alcoholic struggling with massive anxiety and depression which I tried to hide from the outside world. I would let people walk all over me and never stood up for myself in fear of making people mad at me. I wanted to be accepted by the wrong people, so bad, that I would do anything to earn their acceptance. At the time I thought all this was normal. I was a mess when I came to see Tonya! She helped me to sort this mess out and allowed me to become a person I was proud of and wanted to take care of. I now know that it is ok to be true to myself and express my feelings and opinions. I have found greater success in life and my career by doing these things than I ever did as a people pleaser who fell in line and didn't complain. I turned my focus inward on taking care of myself instead sacrificing myself to try and please or take care of others around me. As a result I am a much happier person and I am proud of the person I have become. I haven't drank since 2018. Removing my drinking really opened the door for me to a much healthier and happier life that I am very proud of. And as an added bonus, I no longer have to go through brutal hangovers! I can honestly say, I do not miss it at all. I am also much more confident and comfortable in social situations where I used to rely on drinking as a social lubricant to aid in my social life. I could go on and on, but I think you get the picture at this point. Tonya is one of the 2 greatest therapists I have ever seen! Going to see Tonya will be one of the best investments you can make in yourself. Just remember, when you go into therapy, try to keep an open mind and be ready to do the work on yourself. It's not always easy but totally worth it! Tonya is a true life saver! You won't regret it!
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